Our Precious Ethan Carter

Ethan Carter Lane was born on March 12, 2010, perfectly healthy except for a rare congenital heart defect (Supravalvular Aortic Stenosis and Supravalvular Pulmonic Stenosis) that has been passed down through the generations in my family. His sister, Emily (born November 22, 2004), has the same defect. She had two cardiac catheterizations with balloon angioplastys and open-heart surgery, all before the age of one. She is a happy, energetic little girl who has never been sickly (you would never even know she has a heart defect) and has an incredible future. Her little brother Ethan was expected to follow a similar course. He was a "normal baby"... he never looked or acted sick, never struggled, never let us know just how severe his heart defect really was. On June 4, 2010, at two months and three weeks of age, Ethan underwent his first procedure--- a cardiac catheterization with balloon angioplasty. Only they never started the actual procedure. When someone is put under general anesthesia, their blood pressure drops. When the doctors put our precious Ethan under, his heart could not handle the drop in blood pressure. He went into sudden, unexpected cardiac arrest, and teams of doctors tried everything they knew to save him. But, Jesus did the saving that day in His Own special way... and Ethan went to live forever in Heaven. This blog is simply one mother working through her grief and reconciling a Loving God with One Who allows us to suffer the loss of a child. It is also one mother wanting the world to know about her incredibly special son--- and the God Who loves him.

Wednesday, December 8, 2010

Your First Snow

Sweet Ethan,

You are missing your First Snow...

I know Heaven is so much better, but I can't help it--- I am heartbroken.

You should be here, with us and your Sissy...

She should be telling you all about snow like she just told me!

She is at the office with your Daddy. I noticed little snowflakes coming down on our back patio, and called Daddy right away to have him take her outside. She got on the phone and proceeded to tell me how snow is made out of ice and water. :)

It is just starting to come down... little, tiny flakes and none on the ground yet.

Sissy's First Snow was in January of 2009, when she was four years old!

And here your first one is, when you are only a few days shy of nine months old... but not here to enjoy it.

Snow is so magical that I wonder if there is any in Heaven... without the bitter cold, of course!

I wonder about so many things in Heaven.

Most of all, I wonder what you are doing.

As your Mama, it's not good enough to just know you are happy and safe... I want details!!

I guess it has to be good enough, though, because I don't get to know the details until I meet you there.

If there is snow in Heaven, I want you to make a big snowball and throw it at Grampy!

Tell him his daughter misses him and can't wait to be with you both!

And if there isn't snow in Heaven...

it means it is nothing compared to the glory you live in.


I love you, Sweet Boy--- and miss you every single moment.

Love,

Mama

6 comments:

  1. I am crying right along with you. I am at a loss for words but please know that I am praying for your whole family.

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  2. Thank you... it means so much to me!

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  3. Such beautiful words, Bryanne! As the first snowflakes of our first snowfall this year started to come down, I immediately thought of my sweet boy, too. It's amazing how those little things that they are missing seem to mean the most and are sometimes the hardest to get through. I'm so sorry to hear that you are struggling too.
    I hope that this Christmas (along with the inevitable sorrow, of course) brings your family some hope and joy. It is incredible to know that our boys are home, celebrating Jesus' birth with Him this year...but so difficult that they are away from "home" at the same time. Praying for you all and sweet Ethan.

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  4. Danielle, please know I am praying for you, too! Your Aaron is so beautiful... and such a brave little fighter! The pictures you posted on August 28th (when you shared how he had gone to be with Jesus) are precious, precious, precious. I am so grateful that in Heaven, there will be no more goodbyes, ever!!

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  5. Thank you so much for sharing your(and Ethan's story). He is such a adorable little boy. I wish I had words that would ease your pain - but please know that you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. Take care.

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  6. Praying for you, as well! I'm happy to get to know Jake and Sawyer, if only through your eyes until I meet them in Heaven!

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